In this first video, I address how you can speak to each attachment style with your clients. Avoidant Adoption Attachment - How to emphasis other and give up addiction for being alone. Importance of including other. Ambivalent Attachment - Unpredictability for the baby when getting inconsistent love response from parents. Over focus on other. Help them [...]
We all may know that we are neurobiologically designed for Secure Attachment but the critical question is: How do we help our clients return there if they did not hit the jackpot by starting out with it in the first place? It is often said, it is much easier to learn a theory than to put one into practice. [...]
I’m very interested in attachment as I feel that our culture has become a bit too anti-relational. We are still so embedded in being pioneer individualists and autonomists, and there's a little overdose of that. Those are good things to have, but an overdose means sometimes we are so into the Self that we are not [...]
Being perfect is not so important because you are not going to be, anyway. It's not going to happen; you’re going to make mistakes. It’s okay to make mistakes. And, there is no way around it, but if you learn to be skillful with repair, you can actually have a stronger relationship after a mistake, because [...]
Anytime you are with another person, attachment is operating. Anytime somebody walks in your office as a client, your attachment system comes into play, whether you realize the impact of that or not. And there are just two people, so the more you get a chance to check out what your own situation is—and maybe move [...]
Each holiday season I like to send out my favorite list of the small BIG things that can enrich our relationships. If you have something to add, I would love to hear from you please comment below! I am also putting all my DVDs on sale, with a special gift since we are often so [...]
A Discussion on Strategies, Behaviors & Corrective Experiences with this Competent Protector One of the most important corrective experiences that I am going to discuss in this training is re‐establishing a sense of safety because safety was so disrupted in the original experience–and one of the ways we can access that is installing a competent protector: giving the possibility [...]
A Dialogue with Diane from Module 4.1–Introduction to Disorganized Attachment (Disoriented/Type D) So often in relationships – because your partner is there – you locate them. And, then, you’re probably having an argument about something that, maybe, 2% really happened but the 98% is actually coming from your history. This is the part that I want [...]
We all may know that we are neurobiologically designed for Secure Attachment but the critical question is: How do we help our clients return there if they did not hit the jackpot by starting out with it in the first place? It is often said, it is much easier to learn a theory than to put one into practice. [...]