I’m very interested in attachment as I feel that our culture has become a bit too anti-relational. We are still so embedded in being pioneer individualists and autonomists, and there’s a little overdose of that.
Those are good things to have, but an overdose means sometimes we are so into the Self that we are not into the mutuality of other. We are not into being with someone else and sharing a relational field. Then you add technology, which has huge advantages, but then also sometimes can be a form of dissociative regulation. You don’t get quite as much face-to-face time.
Take kids, for example. They’re texting, but they need the actual sitting—“being with,” time as I call it. In the last 54 years or so we’ve moved into two-career families with many demands therefore there is less time together. You might even have excellent parents, but they just literally don’t have enough time (or make it).
Understanding and Using Practical Techniques
So there are a lot of reasons that highlight the need for us to understand these “underpinnings” a bit more – especially experientially. I am going to try to give you a nice cognitive overview, but also a lot of clinical and practical techniques that you can take back to give your clients right away.
This blog was written from Diane Poole Heller – Module 1.1: Introduction to Secure Attachment. Learn more by purchasing the DARe Module 1 DVD Set: Healing Early Attachment Wounds and Embracing the Authentic Self collection – CLICK HERE.