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How traumatic events can break our vital connections—and how to restore love, wholeness, and resiliency in your life. From our earliest years, we develop an attachment style that follows us through life, replaying in our daily emotional landscape, our relationships, and how we feel about ourselves. And in the wake of a traumatic event—such as a [...]

Why Resilience Matters

Resilience can reduce suffering, provide meaning, and make sense of tragedy. In short, resilience can give you strength in the face of adversity and loss. What Is Resilience? To define resilience simply, we might use synonyms such as “toughness” or “adaptability” to clarify the meaning. For people who have suffered tragedy, trauma, or particularly emotional events [...]

4 Signs of Disorganized Attachment

Disorganized attachment represents the most complex attachment adaptation, which also means the most difficult to recognize and treat in therapy. March 26-28, 2019, Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D. will present DARe 4: From Wound to Wellness, which focuses on disorganized attachment identification and therapeutic strategies to help clients move toward secure attachment in their adult lives. Signs [...]

Attachment: Needs VS Neediness

In Attachment theory, we often express the importance of being able to communicate our needs to a partner or loved when they arise. The inability to express needs may come from early Attachment injury including Avoidant adaptations when the needs of the child were not met by the parents or caregivers, leaving the child to fend [...]

Online Dating? How to Use Texting to Identify Attachment Styles

Are you someone actively looking for a partner and find yourself on the dating scene? Having an awareness of your Attachment style, as well as your potential partner’s Attachment style, can help you cut through the sometimes confusing and emotionally troubling dating experience. Identify Attachment Styles through Text Message Behavior Like it or not, texting is [...]

3 Ways Attachment Styles Affects Sex and Intimacy

Attachment Adaptations impact our adult relationships, including sexual behaviors and our ability to develop intimacy. Securely Attached couples can enjoy both the physical and emotional connection fostered by a healthy sexual relationship, look out for their own needs and those of their partners, and develop deeper connections through shared sexual satisfaction. Attachment Adaptations can mean that [...]

Solve Attachment Injury in Your Adult Relationships

Many people have idealized misconceptions about having the perfect relationship. Perhaps, they think, having a partner in life will fill in the gaps and holes left by past trauma or Attachment injuries. What many people fail to realize is that the intimate relationship is often the place where these painful experiences become amplified and because your [...]

The Impact of the Digital Age on Millennials’ Attachment Development

Millennials, defined as young adults born in the 1980s and coming of age in the new millennium, face particular Attachment challenges. Some theorize that it is due to the digital age and emphasis of screen-based social media, while others point to overall societal trends, such as the tendency toward blended, rather than nuclear, families. In all [...]

Is Your Attachment Style Holding Back Your Career?

Attachment injury never stays within the lines. While your Attachment adaptation manifests more noticeably in your personal relationships with your partner, spouse, children, or parents, the workplace is not immune to the patterns of your Attachment style, and it could be holding you back from success. Securely Attached individuals naturally have a more positive attitude and [...]

3 Behaviors That Contribute to Avoidant Attachment Injury

Those of us who are Avoidantly Attached tend to avoid emotional challenges by avoiding them – either checking out mentally or even walking away. If you or someone you love lives with Avoidant Adaptation, you might be wondering where and how this developed. Avoidantly Attached individuals often did not have their needs met as children, either [...]