Creative Ways to Self-Regulate during the 2016 Election
Stay present and less stressed this election season! In this video I will cover: How disorganized attachment is created Creative ways to self-regulate & co-regulate Therapeutic techniques to use with your clients Understanding the range of resiliency - Dan Siegel's Window of Tolerance Working the systems of chaos theory for increased maturation (introducing perturbation /stimulus) I think you will learn several [...]
The 8 Habits of Highly Successful Therapists
HABIT #1 Embodying Compassion. It all starts with love and compassion. The best therapists deeply empathize with their clients. They also have much self-love for their own history and self journey. HABIT #2 The Discipline to Do What You Do Best. Those who rise to the top of any field, often focus on a specific type of work or specialty they are passionate [...]
INdependence, DEpendence, and INTERdependence
Happy 4th of July to YOU! But what about celebrating our nation’s Independence Day might also be relevant for our work in healing Attachment? We are a culture that believes deeply in pulling ourselves up by our bootstraps. This overdeveloped sense of self-efficacy seeps into our families and parenting preferences. Bonnie Badenoch, co-founder of Nurturing the Heart with the [...]
Attachment, Trauma & Intimacy Conference: Boulder April 8-10, 2016
I believe that psychotherapy is going through an evolutionary upgrade. And although human beings have been working on healing in different ways for thousands of years, many recent discoveries and systems are helping us understand healing in a way that was never possible. While the foundation of my work is primarily with Attachment and Trauma Resolution, it is exciting to find new and effective ways to advance the [...]
Happy Valentine’s Day from Diane Poole Heller
Happy Valentine's Day! I hope you enjoy this video. Valentine's Day is a celebration of our capacity to love. To ensure you're getting and giving the greatest gourmet contact nutrition on this special day, remember: Be conscious of your voice: Choose and use a melodic and soothing voice. Incorporate touch: Touch is the way we communicate love, including foot rubs, [...]
Christmas Message from Diane
Merry Christmas (or whichever holiday you celebrate)! I hope you enjoy this video. The holiday season is a wonderful time to enjoy the company of our loved ones, but for many of us (and our clients), it can be more stressful than enjoyable. How can we offer support to ourselves, our family and friends, and our clients during this busy [...]
Thanksgiving Video Message from Diane
I really want to wish you a happy Thanksgiving! Hope you enjoy this video. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, because really it's all about giving thanks for how much we have. It's about spending time with our loved ones, our family, and our friends. Hopefully you're getting a chance to get together with people that you care about. I want to [...]
Video Blog: Bullying
Bullying is a form of aggression, and it sometimes appears in Disorganized Attachment. How can you help your clients handle their own aggression (and aggression in others) in a compassionate, healthy way? In this video, we'll examine: Viewing aggression through the lens of attachment Symptoms of bullying in relationships How a child's brain learns to adapt Helping your clients heal [...]
Video Blog: About Your Brain
While you may be excellent at interpreting the goings-on of your clients' brains, how thoroughly do you understand the inner workings of your own brain, especially in session with your clients? In this video, I talk about: What might be making it more difficult for you to stay "in the zone" How evolution affects our brain function Presencing safety [...]
The Importance of Creating Containment
One of the things we are doing in therapy is creating containment; and another thing that allows Secure Attachment to happen is that, whatever experience arises, what we are trying to do as therapists is meet that in a way that contains it. That doesn’t mean we allow people to hit us over the head with a 2x4, but whatever [...]