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Lifelong Neuroplasticity to Engender and Enhance Connection

Identifying habitual patterns and individual Attachment styles presents an opportunity to take action in your own life or in your approach with couples therapy clients who struggle with shame, past trauma, or Attachment adaptations that inhibit connection and satisfaction in their relationships. Change Your Life by Changing Your Brain  Our brains can change. Our brains are resilient, trainable, and reorganize [...]

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Caring for a Highly Sensitive Person

While HSP, or the Highly Sensitive Person, is not a designation in the DSM, it is gaining recognition as a trait that may affect up to 20 percent of the population. Sometimes HSPs acquire titles like being shy or introverted, but they often vacillate between intense social interaction and counteracting with time to decompress. As each person has unique personality [...]


Valentine’s Day Video – Deepening Intimacy

Happy Valentine's Day! You can celebrate deepening intimacy and connection with your partner, children, colleagues, and friends on a deep level and learn how to sustain those important relationships in your life. Norman Doidge, MD, says the brain loves novelty and that this novelty is part of keeping romance and interest alive. I hope you find this video useful and [...]

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Calling All Therapists, Lovers, and Connection Seekers

Diane Poole Heller and three world-class couples therapists join together this spring to deliver the life-enriching information about the link between Attachment and neuroscience in our 4th Annual DARe to Connect Conference. This year, our subject is “THRIVE! Trauma, Attachment, and Neuroscience.” Diane Poole Heller, PhD Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Terry Real, LICSW Pat Love, EdD, LMFT, LPC Our experts [...]

2017 New Year Message – Creating Happiness

Rather than making the same short-lived resolutions in 2017, let's focus on what we all really want: greater happiness! Benjamin Franklin, at age twenty, came up with a plan to improve himself by practicing 13 virtues and gave himself a score at the end of the day to hold himself accountable. They say it takes 11 weeks (77 days) to [...]

Securing Holiday Joy – Happy Holidays 2016!

Happy holidays! Though this is a season of festivities for many, it can also be a stressful time that invites unwelcome triggers to your table. For the upcoming holidays, let’s focus on transformation and welcoming the joy of Secure Attachment to our celebration. You may find the challenges and practices below useful. Attachment Style – Avoidant Challenges during this time [...]

Gratitude’s Role in Secure Attachment

Thanksgiving is one of my favorite times to celebrate gratitude, which can benefit our lives 365 days a year. What a great time to incorporate gratitude rituals and appreciation in day-to-day life. When we can recognize and acknowledge how challenges that arise in our life are only here to help us grow…we can employ gratitude for that opportunity and use [...]

Creative Ways to Self-Regulate during the 2016 Election

Stay present and less stressed this election season! In this video I will cover: How disorganized attachment is created Creative ways to self-regulate & co-regulate Therapeutic techniques to use with your clients Understanding the range of resiliency - Dan Siegel's Window of Tolerance Working the systems of chaos theory for increased maturation (introducing perturbation /stimulus) I think you will learn several [...]


The 8 Habits of Highly Successful Therapists

HABIT #1 Embodying Compassion. It all starts with love and compassion. The best therapists deeply empathize with their clients. They also have much self-love for their own history and self journey. HABIT #2 The Discipline to Do What You Do Best. Those who rise to the top of any field, often focus on a specific type of work or specialty they are passionate [...]

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