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Healthy Boundaries with Disorganized Attachment

If you have a family member who has attachment injury, you might have noticed that maintaining a healthy relationship can be a challenge. We recently received a letter from an individual who has a family member that displays classic signs of disorganized attachment style. She describes a push and pull type relationship with her. The family member claims to want [...]

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What Does Codependency Mean, Anyway?

People often throw the term “codependency” around, and upon first inspection, you might exclude yourself from this term based on the negative connotation. Many people, however, find themselves in codependent relationships at some point during their lives, and recognizing the signs can help you get a handle on your relationship. Simply put, codependent individuals rely on and overemphasize the needs of [...]

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Online Dating? How to Use Texting to Identify Attachment Styles

Are you someone actively looking for a partner and find yourself on the dating scene? Having an awareness of your Attachment style, as well as your potential partner’s Attachment style, can help you cut through the sometimes confusing and emotionally troubling dating experience. Identify Attachment Styles through Text Message Behavior Like it or not, texting is an integral part of [...]

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3 Lazy Relationship Habits to Avoid

Fostering meaningful connection in the digital age poses challenges that never existed in previous generations – at least not to today’s scale and scope. Do you find yourself scanning your friends’ latest Instagram posts while your partner is talking? Millions of couples report that digital technology, like SmartPhones, is undermining their relationship at the very foundation. What makes social media [...]

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3 Telltale Signs of Secure Attachment

Genuinely connected partners will be the first to admit that their relationships are not perfect, but individuals with Secure Attachment share many characteristics, making it possible to manage the challenges that arise constructively. Here are 3 of the many signs that you and your partner share Secure Attachment. #1 You Both Feel Comfortable Being Your Authentic Selves Trusting your partner [...]

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Is Jealousy Bad for Relationships?

“Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening.” ― Maya Angelou Chances are if you have committed to a long-term partnership at some point, you have experienced jealousy when it comes to your relationship. In the context of Attachment, jealousy can [...]

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5 Habits of Securely Attached Couples

Securely Attached couples share deep connection and intimacy with their partners based on trust that you will consistently meet one another's needs. Turning toward your partner when they ask for your attention or affection is one of the greatest strengths in an intimate relationship according to the Gottman Relationships Research Institute. Here are 5 additional habits common among Securely Attached [...]

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3 Ways Attachment Styles Affects Sex and Intimacy

Attachment Adaptations impact our adult relationships, including sexual behaviors and our ability to develop intimacy. Securely Attached couples can enjoy both the physical and emotional connection fostered by a healthy sexual relationship, look out for their own needs and those of their partners, and develop deeper connections through shared sexual satisfaction. Attachment Adaptations can mean that the emotional and sexual [...]

Attachment, Relationships|

3 Reasons Why People Shut Down Emotionally

Loving someone who shuts down, stonewalls you, or simply will not communicate, causes a quandary, particularly if you can tell by their lack of engagement that something is going on deep below the surface. Alternatively, if you have shut down emotionally yourself, you might review some of the following reasons why people close themselves off and ask yourself if one [...]

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Fostering Intimacy Outside of the Bedroom

We often associate intimacy with the bedroom and physical acts of affection. It is helpful, however, to participate in intimacy foreplay before diving between the sheets. The connection that non-sexual intimacy fosters deepens connection and can enhance the physical pleasure of both partners when it's time for sex. Appreciate the Small Things Day-to-day life has a way of casting a [...]

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