Understanding Attachment Styles and Their Effect on Relationships
What is Attachment and Why is It Important? After working with thousands of clients and leading hundreds of group training sessions over the last 30 years, I strongly believe that our attachment styles play a critical role in how we interact and relate in our adult relationships—including intimate partnerships, work relationships and parenting/caregiving dynamics. Our attachment styles influence how [...]
Video Blog – Happy Labor Day 2021
Happy Labor Day! We celebrate Labor Day in the US by appreciating workers and their commitment to their jobs and their contributions to society as a whole. What are your unique gifts and contributions? Take a moment to think about it. How have you done well to make a difference? Let’s take a moment to acknowledge that in each other [...]
Toxic Shame: What It Is and What to Do about It
Shame is a popular topic these days, with educators and mental health professionals alerting us to the effects of toxic shame on our health and wellbeing. But identifying toxic shame and how it creeps into our lives and relationships—particularly our relationship with ourselves—can be quite tricky. You may have heard about the effects of toxic shame from speakers like Brené [...]
Video Blog: Happy Independence Day!
I want to wish you a Happy Independence Day in America. Here in America, we like to emphasize autonomy, individuation, how we take care of ourselves, pull ourselves up by our bootstraps, and do empowering, powerful, and resilient things. We have talked about the importance of independence and dependence – we need both to have interdependence, which is the hallmark [...]
Video Blog: Happy Father’s Day 2021
What Is a Father? Fathers play an impactful role. Ideally, they provide a container of safety and security for the entire family. I learned a lot from my dad. I’m sure you could take a moment to reflect on how your dad has influenced you. My dad instilled a sense of service and helping my community. He was a kind [...]
Video Blog – Honoring Memorial Day
Let’s take a moment to remember those close to us who have given their lives serving our country. Let’s extend that globally to all of the men and women who were brave warriors for their own countries, and take a moment to feel that gratitude for them. At the end of WWI, Miss Moina Michaels found a beautiful poem by [...]
May: Celebrating Mothers and Mothering Presence
May is time to celebrate Mother's Day. Take a moment to reflect on your relationship with your mother. Sometimes our relationships with our mothers are challenging, but we can look at what or who provided a loving, nurturing and mothering presence. Even a male person, like a father or brother, can have a mothering presence. See if you can take [...]
Video Blog: Try an Exercise “Create-a-Day” for Secure Attachment This Spring
Spring is a time for renewal, but it might also be time to try something new for neuroplasticity. I like to call these Create-a-Days where you set aside time to engage in your interests, but you never seem to have time. Create-a-Day could include new recipes, trying new art galleries, planting a garden for the first time. The important thing [...]
Video: Dr. Heller on FoxNews about Trauma Resources after the Boulder Shootings
Colorado therapists, Dr. Diane Poole Heller and Jennifer Silacci were interviewed on FoxNews on March 26, 2021, to discuss the far-reaching arms of trauma and how each time one of these mass shooting events occurs, it can re-trigger the families and communities. Re-opening these wounds does not have an expiration date, even as far back as Columbine and beyond. Resources [...]
Response to Boulder Tragedy: Tips to Calm the Nervous System and Therapy Resources
I want to take a moment to acknowledge the mass shooting tragedies that have occurred in the US in Atlanta, GA on March 16th, 2021 and Boulder, CO on March 22nd, 2021. For families of other mass shootings, even those as long ago as Columbine, these events can be triggering, causing the reliving of grief, loss and fear for people [...]