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3 Ways Attachment Injuries Undermine Your Life

Having an Attachment injury can feel like you’re lugging around a forty-pound weight everywhere you go. This may prevent you from fully enjoying life, or even cause you to make poor decisions regarding your future happiness. There is good news, however; we can heal our Attachment injuries in adulthood. Here are three ways that Attachment injuries can keep you from [...]

3 Steps to Becoming the Perfect Parent Despite Your Attachment Injury

We all want to be Super Parents and give our kids everything they need to ensure a successful future. This pressure you place on yourself can have a negative impact on your stress level, undermining your ultimate goal. If you have past trauma or Attachment injury, this can double the pressure to do everything right because you intimately understand how [...]

Attachment, Children, Secure|

4 Things You Need to Know about Adult Attachment

If you are seeking more information on adult Attachment Theory, here are four things you need to know. 1. There are four Attachment styles. Secure – Securely attached people find it easy to develop relationships with others and do not excessively worry about the status of those relationships. They are comfortable being dependable for others and depending on others for [...]

3 Ways to Restore Connection after an Argument with Your Partner

An argument with your partner can lead to fight/flight or freeze response. If you have been together for any length of time, you probably know what to expect and dread the hours of silence or the slamming of doors following a relationship blowout. Perhaps the most difficult part of being in adult relationships is overcoming the aftermath of an argument. [...]

Attachment, Couples, Regulation|

How Do Digital Devices Impact the Brain?

No matter where you look these days, it seems like a majority of the population is glued to their digital devices. Oftentimes, you can even spot couples who are clearly out for a date night ignoring one another and focusing on their smartphone screens instead, essentially shutting out the other person. What happens in the brain when you are locked [...]

5 Reasons Why Attachment Matters for Therapists

While each person is different, those with Attachment injury may embody certain challenges. Avoidant, Ambivalent, Disorganized, and Secure Attachment likely have different histories and work with relationship differently in their adult lives. Healthy, Secure Attachment is within reach. Gaining in-depth knowledge about working with each Attachment styles can elevate your private practice and your personal life. #1 Understand the Attachment [...]

What Is the Greatest Secret to Relationship Success?

Have you ever wondered how some people seem to have the best relationships while you and your partner keep having the same arguments over and over? Do you wish to be completely understood and to deeply satisfy yourself and your partner emotionally? Do you love your partner but often feel like you are not as connected as you would like? [...]

DARe, Relationships, Secure|

5 Simple Self-Care Tips for Therapists, Body Workers, and Coaches

Most of us who decide to dedicate our career lives to a “helping profession” such as therapy, counseling, coaching, massage, energy work, yoga instruction, or Somatic Experiencing do so with the intention of supporting others in achieving contentment and deeply satisfying lives. Unfortunately we may also sacrifice our own wellness and lose ourselves as our growing passion for supporting others [...]


How We Work with Disorganized Attachment in DARe Live Trainings

Disorganized Attachment embodies the most complex Attachment wound. It occurs when children attempt to connect with a parent who has Attachment injury or unresolved trauma. The parent, who is supposed to be the safe haven of for the child, may actually embody the source of fear. The child may suffer exposure to: Loud voices Explosive behavior Emotional abuse Physical abuse [...]

Attachment, DARe, Disorganized, Trauma|

Use of Narrative to Evaluate Attachment Patterning

Narrative and Secure Attachment Secure Attachment languaging is often easiest because of left and right brain integration. Primarily Securely Attached individuals may have characteristics of Attachment adaptations from time-to-time. Working with clients with different Attachment styles requires fluidity in languaging in order to help our clients (or ourselves) move toward Secure. Narrative and Avoidant Attachment The Avoidant client may stick [...]