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5 Reasons Why Attachment Matters for Therapists

While each person is different, those with Attachment injury may embody certain challenges. Avoidant, Ambivalent, Disorganized, and Secure Attachment likely have different histories and work with relationship differently in their adult lives. Healthy, Secure Attachment is within reach. Gaining in-depth knowledge about working with each Attachment styles can elevate your private practice and your personal life. #1 Understand the Attachment [...]

What Is the Greatest Secret to Relationship Success?

Have you ever wondered how some people seem to have the best relationships while you and your partner keep having the same arguments over and over? Do you wish to be completely understood and to deeply satisfy yourself and your partner emotionally? Do you love your partner but often feel like you are not as connected as you would like? [...]

DARe, Relationships, Secure|

5 Simple Self-Care Tips for Therapists, Body Workers, and Coaches

Most of us who decide to dedicate our career lives to a “helping profession” such as therapy, counseling, coaching, massage, energy work, yoga instruction, or Somatic Experiencing do so with the intention of supporting others in achieving contentment and deeply satisfying lives. Unfortunately we may also sacrifice our own wellness and lose ourselves as our growing passion for supporting others [...]

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How We Work with Disorganized Attachment in DARe Live Trainings

Disorganized Attachment embodies the most complex Attachment wound. It occurs when children attempt to connect with a parent who has Attachment injury or unresolved trauma. The parent, who is supposed to be the safe haven of for the child, may actually embody the source of fear. The child may suffer exposure to: Loud voices Explosive behavior Emotional abuse Physical abuse [...]

Attachment, DARe, Disorganized, Trauma|

Use of Narrative to Evaluate Attachment Patterning

Narrative and Secure Attachment Secure Attachment languaging is often easiest because of left and right brain integration. Primarily Securely Attached individuals may have characteristics of Attachment adaptations from time-to-time. Working with clients with different Attachment styles requires fluidity in languaging in order to help our clients (or ourselves) move toward Secure. Narrative and Avoidant Attachment The Avoidant client may stick [...]

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Video Blog: Exploring Ambivalent Attachment Online and in Live Trainings

When you want to take your knowledge about Attachment a bit deeper, we offer ongoing training through the Therapy Mastermind Circle (TMC), which is open now for enrollment. This is an online global program that you can easily fit into your busy family and professional schedule, on your own time. We feature world-class expert speakers, monthly teachings, case consults, and [...]

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Video Blog: Avoidant Attachment Adaptation and How We Work with Them in DARe Trainings

                DARe stands for Dynamic Attachment Re-patterning experience, which is a series of four module-style trainings that address Attachment as it affects our lives and the lives of our clients. These trainings are available live, on DVD, and soon to be offered online. DARe is designed to help us understand and heal our [...]

Working with Implicit and Explicit Memory to Heal Trauma and Attachment

We are honored to welcome Bruce Ecker, MA LMFT, of the Coherence Psychology Institute as one of our upcoming expert speakers for the Therapy Mastermind Circle. In line with our current focus on neuroscience called Nature, Nurture, and Neurons, Bruce Ecker discussed working with implicit and explicit memory for healing trauma and Attachment. Neural Circuits and Memory Reconsolidation Typically, the [...]

Attachment, Memory, Trauma|

Resolving Threat to Restore the Capacity to Connect

Humans, like all species, are designed for survival. Our neurological response to threat focuses its efforts toward that purpose. When we sense danger, we require no conscious input into the activation of our parasympathetic nervous system. You can’t take time to evaluate the situation when a hungry mountain lion plunges into your path. Quick response is key. How We Perceive [...]

Lifelong Neuroplasticity to Engender and Enhance Connection

Identifying habitual patterns and individual Attachment styles presents an opportunity to take action in your own life or in your approach with couples therapy clients who struggle with shame, past trauma, or Attachment adaptations that inhibit connection and satisfaction in their relationships. Change Your Life by Changing Your Brain  Our brains can change. Our brains are resilient, trainable, and reorganize [...]

Attachment, Couples, Neuroscience|