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Fostering Intimacy Outside of the Bedroom

We often associate intimacy with the bedroom and physical acts of affection. It is helpful, however, to participate in intimacy foreplay before diving between the sheets. The connection that non-sexual intimacy fosters deepens connection and can enhance the physical pleasure of both partners when it's time for sex. Appreciate the Small Things Day-to-day life has a way of casting a [...]

Intimacy, Relationships|

Attachment Injury – You Are Not Broken

The human brain adapts and adjusts in order to keep you safe. Attachment adaptations often cause people to feel “damaged” or “broken,” which misrepresents what the brain is really doing to protect its keeper. Attachment adaptations occur in early childhood when disruptions between the caregiver and child relationships interrupt Secure Attachment and are a necessary coping tool based on the [...]

Ambivalent, Avoidant, Neuroscience|

Solve Attachment Injury in Your Adult Relationships

Many people have idealized misconceptions about having the perfect relationship. Perhaps, they think, having a partner in life will fill in the gaps and holes left by past trauma or Attachment injuries. What many people fail to realize is that the intimate relationship is often the place where these painful experiences become amplified and because your partner is at a [...]

Attachment, DARe|

The Impact of the Digital Age on Millennials’ Attachment Development

Millennials, defined as young adults born in the 1980s and coming of age in the new millennium, face particular Attachment challenges. Some theorize that it is due to the digital age and emphasis of screen-based social media, while others point to overall societal trends, such as the tendency toward blended, rather than nuclear, families. In all likelihood, it is a [...]


Is Your Attachment Style Holding Back Your Career?

Attachment injury never stays within the lines. While your Attachment adaptation manifests more noticeably in your personal relationships with your partner, spouse, children, or parents, the workplace is not immune to the patterns of your Attachment style, and it could be holding you back from success. Securely Attached individuals naturally have a more positive attitude and outlook in the workplace. [...]


3 Behaviors That Contribute to Avoidant Attachment Injury

Those of us who are Avoidantly Attached tend to avoid emotional challenges by avoiding them – either checking out mentally or even walking away. If you or someone you love lives with Avoidant Adaptation, you might be wondering where and how this developed. Avoidantly Attached individuals often did not have their needs met as children, either because the parent was [...]

Attachment, Avoidant|

3 Reasons to Attend DARe Live Trainings This Summer

We scheduled three of our four DARe live trainings this summer, including DARe 1: Healing Early Attachment Wounds, the prerequisite for all other DARe trainings. These summer courses occur quickly in succession to make travel convenient for our participants. With the availability of DVD and online coursework, attending live trainings may seem unnecessary. Live trainings do, however, boast many benefits [...]


Is Insecure Attachment Ruining Your Sex Life?

Perhaps one of the most complex aspects of long-term relationships is sexual satisfaction because of factors such as imbalance of desire (real or perceived), pressure, power, shame, and partners' Attachment styles. Securely Attached – Attuned and Receptive While challenges such as an imbalance of desire can still impact sexual satisfaction in Securely Attached couples, they often circumvent difficulties arising from [...]

Video Blog: Diane on Oprah and Childhood Trauma (and 30% off DVD Collection)

Please take a moment to watch Diane's video blog about the 60 Minutes episode with Oprah that is helping to bring global awareness brought to the important topic of childhood trauma. Childhood trauma does not end in childhood, but often follows us into adulthood and casts a dark shadow on our adult relationships. Trauma-Informed Care (TIC) Ask what happened to [...]


Attachment Parenting – Parents and Attachment

It’s amazing how quickly the awareness of Attachment theory, and specifically Attachment parenting, is growing. Try typing in #attachmentparenting and see how many results you get. Attachment parenting is a wonderful way to approach healthy childhood development, but what about parents’ Attachment needs? It will be more effective to address your own Attachment wounds first. By caring for yourself, you [...]

Attachment Parenting, Repair|