While HSP, or the Highly Sensitive Person, is not a designation in the DSM, it is gaining recognition as a trait that may affect up to 20 percent of the population. Sometimes HSPs acquire titles like being shy or introverted, but they often vacillate between intense social interaction and counteracting with time to decompress. As each [...]
Happy Valentine's Day! You can celebrate deepening intimacy and connection with your partner, children, colleagues, and friends on a deep level and learn how to sustain those important relationships in your life. Norman Doidge, MD, says the brain loves novelty and that this novelty is part of keeping romance and interest alive. I hope you find [...]
Diane Poole Heller and three world-class couples therapists join together this spring to deliver the life-enriching information about the link between Attachment and neuroscience in our 4th Annual DARe to Connect Conference. This year, our subject is “THRIVE! Trauma, Attachment, and Neuroscience.” Diane Poole Heller, PhD Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Terry Real, LICSW Pat Love, EdD, [...]
Rather than making the same short-lived resolutions in 2017, let's focus on what we all really want: greater happiness! Benjamin Franklin, at age twenty, came up with a plan to improve himself by practicing 13 virtues and gave himself a score at the end of the day to hold himself accountable. They say it takes 11 [...]
Happy holidays! Though this is a season of festivities for many, it can also be a stressful time that invites unwelcome triggers to your table. For the upcoming holidays, let’s focus on transformation and welcoming the joy of Secure Attachment to our celebration. You may find the challenges and practices below useful. Attachment Style – Avoidant [...]
Thanksgiving is one of my favorite times to celebrate gratitude, which can benefit our lives 365 days a year. What a great time to incorporate gratitude rituals and appreciation in day-to-day life. When we can recognize and acknowledge how challenges that arise in our life are only here to help us grow…we can employ gratitude for [...]
Stay present and less stressed this election season! In this video I will cover: How disorganized attachment is created Creative ways to self-regulate & co-regulate Therapeutic techniques to use with your clients Understanding the range of resiliency - Dan Siegel's Window of Tolerance Working the systems of chaos theory for increased maturation (introducing perturbation /stimulus) I think [...]
HABIT #1 Embodying Compassion. It all starts with love and compassion. The best therapists deeply empathize with their clients. They also have much self-love for their own history and self journey. HABIT #2 The Discipline to Do What You Do Best. Those who rise to the top of any field, often focus on a specific type of work or [...]
Happy 4th of July to YOU! But what about celebrating our nation’s Independence Day might also be relevant for our work in healing Attachment? We are a culture that believes deeply in pulling ourselves up by our bootstraps. This overdeveloped sense of self-efficacy seeps into our families and parenting preferences. Bonnie Badenoch, co-founder of Nurturing [...]
I believe that psychotherapy is going through an evolutionary upgrade. And although human beings have been working on healing in different ways for thousands of years, many recent discoveries and systems are helping us understand healing in a way that was never possible. While the foundation of my work is primarily with Attachment and Trauma Resolution, it is exciting to find new [...]
