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5 Habits of Securely Attached Couples

Securely Attached couples share deep connection and intimacy with their partners based on trust that you will consistently meet one another's needs. Turning toward your partner when they ask for your attention or affection is one of the greatest strengths in an intimate relationship according to the Gottman Relationships Research Institute. Here are 5 additional habits [...]

3 Ways Attachment Styles Affects Sex and Intimacy

Attachment Adaptations impact our adult relationships, including sexual behaviors and our ability to develop intimacy. Securely Attached couples can enjoy both the physical and emotional connection fostered by a healthy sexual relationship, look out for their own needs and those of their partners, and develop deeper connections through shared sexual satisfaction. Attachment Adaptations can mean that [...]

3 Reasons Why People Shut Down Emotionally

Loving someone who shuts down, stonewalls you, or simply will not communicate, causes a quandary, particularly if you can tell by their lack of engagement that something is going on deep below the surface. Alternatively, if you have shut down emotionally yourself, you might review some of the following reasons why people close themselves off and [...]

Fostering Intimacy Outside of the Bedroom

We often associate intimacy with the bedroom and physical acts of affection. It is helpful, however, to participate in intimacy foreplay before diving between the sheets. The connection that non-sexual intimacy fosters deepens connection and can enhance the physical pleasure of both partners when it's time for sex. Appreciate the Small Things Day-to-day life has a [...]

Attachment Injury – You Are Not Broken

The human brain adapts and adjusts in order to keep you safe. Attachment adaptations often cause people to feel “damaged” or “broken,” which misrepresents what the brain is really doing to protect its keeper. Attachment adaptations occur in early childhood when disruptions between the caregiver and child relationships interrupt Secure Attachment and are a necessary coping [...]

Solve Attachment Injury in Your Adult Relationships

Many people have idealized misconceptions about having the perfect relationship. Perhaps, they think, having a partner in life will fill in the gaps and holes left by past trauma or Attachment injuries. What many people fail to realize is that the intimate relationship is often the place where these painful experiences become amplified and because your [...]

The Impact of the Digital Age on Millennials’ Attachment Development

Millennials, defined as young adults born in the 1980s and coming of age in the new millennium, face particular Attachment challenges. Some theorize that it is due to the digital age and emphasis of screen-based social media, while others point to overall societal trends, such as the tendency toward blended, rather than nuclear, families. In all [...]

Is Your Attachment Style Holding Back Your Career?

Attachment injury never stays within the lines. While your Attachment adaptation manifests more noticeably in your personal relationships with your partner, spouse, children, or parents, the workplace is not immune to the patterns of your Attachment style, and it could be holding you back from success. Securely Attached individuals naturally have a more positive attitude and [...]

3 Behaviors That Contribute to Avoidant Attachment Injury

Those of us who are Avoidantly Attached tend to avoid emotional challenges by avoiding them – either checking out mentally or even walking away. If you or someone you love lives with Avoidant Adaptation, you might be wondering where and how this developed. Avoidantly Attached individuals often did not have their needs met as children, either [...]