Santa’s Tips for a Securely Attached Christmas
Each holiday season I like to send out my favorite list of the small BIG things that can enrich our relationships. If you have something to add, I would love to hear from you please comment below! I am also putting all my DVDs on sale, with a special gift since we are often so concerned about others, we [...]
Working with the Very Dysfunctional, ‘Disorganized Adaption’
A Discussion on Strategies, Behaviors & Corrective Experiences with this Competent Protector One of the most important corrective experiences that I am going to discuss in this training is re‐establishing a sense of safety because safety was so disrupted in the original experience–and one of the ways we can access that is installing a competent protector: giving the possibility to the client to [...]
Most Reactivity is Coming from the Implicit Relational Template
A Dialogue with Diane from Module 4.1–Introduction to Disorganized Attachment (Disoriented/Type D) So often in relationships – because your partner is there – you locate them. And, then, you’re probably having an argument about something that, maybe, 2% really happened but the 98% is actually coming from your history. This is the part that I want to stress in this [...]
Helping Our Clients – DARe 1 NY, DARe 4 in Vancouver, January 2015
We all may know that we are neurobiologically designed for Secure Attachment but the critical question is: How do we help our clients return there if they did not hit the jackpot by starting out with it in the first place? It is often said, it is much easier to learn a theory than to put one into practice. We might have read [...]
Update: Attachment Mastery Program – Bring a Friend
Hello friend, I've had two common questions this week about the upcoming Attachment Mastery Training Program and community located at http://attachmentmastery.com. First, some individuals are unsure if they can attend the live 3-day event―especially those from Germany and Australia, and wanted to know if we can provide video recordings of the event. Good news! We've decided to film the 3-day [...]
Experience the Breakthrough Nature of Attachment in Your Therapy Practice and Life
Imagine a young boy (we’ll call him John) who one day was told that he was going to a day camp, but instead was dropped off at an orphanage. No warning was provided for this terrible abandonment. The teenage mother had been left by the boy’s father, and without financial resources, simply could not cope. John originally came to me [...]
[What are] 3 Myths of Working with Attachment Styles?
Hello, I want to say thank you to all of those who watched the previous videos in my free series on the Power of Attachment. This is the third and final video and will only be available for the next few days. And if you missed one of the previous ones, you’ll also have the opportunity to view The Missing Piece in Therapy [...]
The Power of including Attachment Theory in your Clinical Work
It was an amazing experience working with our first Attachment Mastery group earlier this year! We had participants from fifteen different countries and it took us all to a much higher level with our clinical work. A few brave participants were able to go beyond the treatment office and successfully implement attachment into their work environment, changing their corporate culture. I recently [...]
13 Tips to Properly Greet Our Clients
If any of you have attended my conference presentations or live trainings, you know I always start my presentation at the door. I make it a special point to greet participants from the “get-go” with a handshake and good eye contact. I introduce myself and ask for the person’s name and repeat it. We are all about connection so I [...]
Making a Better Burrito
Here’s my current fascination: tracking examples of interactions—whether personal or business—that reflect the use of “Secure Attachment” skills in everyday life. Recently I read an article on Chipotle, the fast-food restaurant chain, on how they have intentionally implemented some of what I would call “Secure Attachment” strategies into their basic business. You have probably been there and noticed that they [...]