It seems like a no-brainer – put yourself at the top of your own priorities. So, why does it seem like our own needs and desires slowly trickle back to the bottom of our daily tasks? It’s a common problem, especially among people who are natural givers. It is important to remember, however, that in order [...]
If you have experienced trauma, you likely have an intimate understanding of this statement: “Trauma stops time.” Individuals who have experienced severely traumatic events will tell you this is true, though they may not have the ability to articulate how. The act of reliving a traumatic event on repeat keeps the mind, and often the body, [...]
Empathy for others can help us to develop a less exclusive form of belonging based on a positive, rather than negative, foundation. Negative Approach to Belonging Sometimes belonging develops because of having something negative in common – a common enemy, hating the same things, or having the same dislikes. In families with Insecure Attachment, members can [...]
“ A sense of belonging is a human need, just like the need for food and shelter.” - Karen Hall Ph.D. A Sense of Belonging Feeling belonging and acceptance can foster the ability to enjoy Secure Attachment in a safe and accepting environment. According to Roy Baumeister and Mark Leary, in their 1995 study, a sense [...]
When considering how Attachment adaptations can affect personal relationships, it makes sense that viewing Attachment on a larger scale can provide some insight into how it affects our communities as a whole. According to a Princeton University study conducted in 2014, as many as 40 percent of children in the US do not develop the Secure [...]
Having an Attachment injury can feel like you’re lugging around a forty-pound weight everywhere you go. This may prevent you from fully enjoying life, or even cause you to make poor decisions regarding your future happiness. There is good news, however; we can heal our Attachment injuries in adulthood. Here are three ways that Attachment injuries [...]
We all want to be Super Parents and give our kids everything they need to ensure a successful future. This pressure you place on yourself can have a negative impact on your stress level, undermining your ultimate goal. If you have past trauma or Attachment injury, this can double the pressure to do everything right because [...]
If you are seeking more information on adult Attachment Theory, here are four things you need to know. 1. There are four Attachment styles. Secure – Securely attached people find it easy to develop relationships with others and do not excessively worry about the status of those relationships. They are comfortable being dependable for others and [...]
An argument with your partner can lead to fight/flight or freeze response. If you have been together for any length of time, you probably know what to expect and dread the hours of silence or the slamming of doors following a relationship blowout. Perhaps the most difficult part of being in adult relationships is overcoming the [...]
No matter where you look these days, it seems like a majority of the population is glued to their digital devices. Oftentimes, you can even spot couples who are clearly out for a date night ignoring one another and focusing on their smartphone screens instead, essentially shutting out the other person. What happens in the brain [...]
