Happy Valentine's Day! I hope you enjoy this video. Valentine's Day is a celebration of our capacity to love. To ensure you're getting and giving the greatest gourmet contact nutrition on this special day, remember: Be conscious of your voice: Choose and use a melodic and soothing voice. Incorporate touch: Touch is the way we communicate [...]
Merry Christmas (or whichever holiday you celebrate)! I hope you enjoy this video. The holiday season is a wonderful time to enjoy the company of our loved ones, but for many of us (and our clients), it can be more stressful than enjoyable. How can we offer support to ourselves, our family and friends, and our [...]
I really want to wish you a happy Thanksgiving! Hope you enjoy this video. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, because really it's all about giving thanks for how much we have. It's about spending time with our loved ones, our family, and our friends. Hopefully you're getting a chance to get together with people that you care [...]
Bullying is a form of aggression, and it sometimes appears in Disorganized Attachment. How can you help your clients handle their own aggression (and aggression in others) in a compassionate, healthy way? In this video, we'll examine: Viewing aggression through the lens of attachment Symptoms of bullying in relationships How a child's brain learns to adapt [...]
While you may be excellent at interpreting the goings-on of your clients' brains, how thoroughly do you understand the inner workings of your own brain, especially in session with your clients? In this video, I talk about: What might be making it more difficult for you to stay "in the zone" How evolution affects our [...]
One of the things we are doing in therapy is creating containment; and another thing that allows Secure Attachment to happen is that, whatever experience arises, what we are trying to do as therapists is meet that in a way that contains it. That doesn’t mean we allow people to hit us over the head with [...]
Tone of voice, or prosody, is a huge part of how your Attachment system works. Tone of voice can trigger the amygdala immediately — it’s designed to be an instant danger signal. What happens in women's voices when they get activated or they see danger? They get shrill. That’s like a siren call back to tribal [...]
One of the best things you can do with your partners is be playful, and appropriately playful with your clients. That’s a really big nourishment for the attachment bond. You tilt everything in your favor by keeping the attachment bond going. I call the attachment gaze the gleam beam. This is a skill you can teach [...]
Anger & Aliveness: Holding It In Interestingly enough, anger uses the same energy as aliveness, vitality, vibrancy, and passion, but it has a lot of toxicity in it. So what we are trying to do is let the anger discharge - maybe through acting from within the defensive response or using defensive words such as; "No!" or [...]
It's true, when we are overwhelmed this energy of ours gets "locked down." The key is in "discharging" the once bound energy. Watch Somatic Experiencing pioneer Peter Levine as he demonstrates his popular Slinky presentation and discusses the enormous effects trauma has on the nervous system, and how he approaches treating trauma. "When you are suppressing energy, you don't have energy to really live, [...]
