Spring is a time for renewal, but it might also be time to try something new for neuroplasticity. I like to call these Create-a-Days where you set aside time to engage in your interests, but you never seem to have time. Create-a-Day could include new recipes, trying new art galleries, planting a garden for the first [...]
Thank you to our veterans worldwide and honor them for the security they selflessly provide to our nations and here in the United States. Secure attachment means you feel protected and have a sense of safety in your everyday life. Please take a moment to pause in appreciation for those soldiers around the world who have [...]
Many people view the New Year as a blank slate or a fresh start. If you are someone who has dealt with attachment injury, you might face additional obstacles. Fortunately, whether you are 23 or 93, you are designed to heal and can always bring more secure attachment into your life. As with any pursuit, developing [...]
Genuinely connected partners will be the first to admit that their relationships are not perfect, but individuals with Secure Attachment share many characteristics, making it possible to manage the challenges that arise constructively. Here are 3 of the many signs that you and your partner share Secure Attachment. #1 You Both Feel Comfortable Being Your Authentic [...]
Securely Attached couples share deep connection and intimacy with their partners based on trust that you will consistently meet one another's needs. Turning toward your partner when they ask for your attention or affection is one of the greatest strengths in an intimate relationship according to the Gottman Relationships Research Institute. Here are 5 additional habits [...]
Even if you are a cheerleader for your loved ones, you might be overly critical of yourself. Your inner critic will override all accomplishments and milestones you achieve if you let it. We often speak to ourselves so cruelly, using language we would never talk to another person. Secure Attachment and the Inner Critic Silencing your [...]
Trauma and Secure Attachment are like oil and water. As Robert Jay Lifton says, “Trauma is broken connection.” The question at the heart of my work is how to repair broken connection. In my new CD set, Healing Your Attachment Wounds: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships, I dive deep into my explorations and [...]
Raising a perfect child is impossible – almost as impossible as being the perfect parent. Here is why your child’s mistakes are an essential part of their development. Parenting and Secure Attachment Secure Attachment depends upon both connection and time away from their caregiver. This ebb and flow develops resiliency and grit. If you notice when [...]
When considering how Attachment adaptations can affect personal relationships, it makes sense that viewing Attachment on a larger scale can provide some insight into how it affects our communities as a whole. According to a Princeton University study conducted in 2014, as many as 40 percent of children in the US do not develop the Secure [...]
Happy holidays! Though this is a season of festivities for many, it can also be a stressful time that invites unwelcome triggers to your table. For the upcoming holidays, let’s focus on transformation and welcoming the joy of Secure Attachment to our celebration. You may find the challenges and practices below useful. Attachment Style – Avoidant [...]
