Disorganized attachment represents the most complex attachment adaptation, which also means the most difficult to recognize and treat in therapy. Signs of Disorganized Attachment 1. Negative Self-Image – Disorganized attachment often manifests as low self-esteem and a negative view of the world as untrustworthy or chaotic. 2. Erratic Behavior – It is common for adults with [...]
The human brain adapts and adjusts in order to keep you safe. Attachment adaptations often cause people to feel “damaged” or “broken,” which misrepresents what the brain is really doing to protect its keeper. Attachment adaptations occur in early childhood when disruptions between the caregiver and child relationships interrupt Secure Attachment and are a necessary coping [...]
Disorganized Attachment embodies the most complex Attachment wound. It occurs when children attempt to connect with a parent who has Attachment injury or unresolved trauma. The parent, who is supposed to be the safe haven of for the child, may actually embody the source of fear. The child may suffer exposure to: Loud voices Explosive behavior [...]
Narrative and Secure Attachment Secure Attachment languaging is often easiest because of left and right brain integration. Primarily Securely Attached individuals may have characteristics of Attachment adaptations from time-to-time. Working with clients with different Attachment styles requires fluidity in languaging in order to help our clients (or ourselves) move toward Secure. Narrative and Avoidant Attachment The [...]
Happy holidays! Though this is a season of festivities for many, it can also be a stressful time that invites unwelcome triggers to your table. For the upcoming holidays, let’s focus on transformation and welcoming the joy of Secure Attachment to our celebration. You may find the challenges and practices below useful. Attachment Style – Avoidant [...]
Stay present and less stressed this election season! In this video I will cover: How disorganized attachment is created Creative ways to self-regulate & co-regulate Therapeutic techniques to use with your clients Understanding the range of resiliency - Dan Siegel's Window of Tolerance Working the systems of chaos theory for increased maturation (introducing perturbation /stimulus) I think [...]
In the last video, we talked about disorganized attachment in individuals. This time I'll answer your questions about dealing with couples when both partners have a disorganized attachment pattern. This final video will cover topics including: 1) How disorganized attachment develops 2) Down-regulating yourself and your partner 3) Spending individual time with each partner in a [...]
Our last video offered some ways for you to stay centered when things get challenging in a therapy session. In this video we'll take a closer look at disorganized attachment‒one of the more challenging and complex attachment styles to work with! The top two questions I address include: 1) How do you work with a "borderline" [...]
In the DARE model I developed 8 years ago, I became completely passionate about working to heal in the relational field. I feel that, especially when it comes to healing adult relationships, so much depends on the presence of the therapist, as I’m very aware of the fact that it is virtually impossible to integrate really [...]
