Attachment Injury – You Are Not Broken

The human brain adapts and adjusts in order to keep you safe. Attachment adaptations often cause people to feel “damaged” or “broken,” which misrepresents what the brain is really doing to protect its keeper. Attachment adaptations occur in early childhood when disruptions between the caregiver and child relationships interrupt Secure Attachment and are a necessary coping [...]

Ambivalent Adaptation and Approval Addiction

Individuals with the Ambivalent, or Anxious, Attachment adaptation cling tightly to love once they acquire it. Entering into a relationship, for our Ambivalent clients, instantly creates an underlying feeling of anxiety and fear and they will willingly, often subconsciously, make enormous sacrifices to hold tightly to love. Their most significant concern is loss or rejection of [...]

Use of Narrative to Evaluate Attachment Patterning

Narrative and Secure Attachment Secure Attachment languaging is often easiest because of left and right brain integration. Primarily Securely Attached individuals may have characteristics of Attachment adaptations from time-to-time. Working with clients with different Attachment styles requires fluidity in languaging in order to help our clients (or ourselves) move toward Secure. Narrative and Avoidant Attachment The [...]

Securing Holiday Joy – Happy Holidays 2016!

Happy holidays! Though this is a season of festivities for many, it can also be a stressful time that invites unwelcome triggers to your table. For the upcoming holidays, let’s focus on transformation and welcoming the joy of Secure Attachment to our celebration. You may find the challenges and practices below useful. Attachment Style – Avoidant [...]

Primer on Attachment Styles

In the DARE model I developed 8 years ago, I became completely passionate about working to heal in the relational field. I feel that, especially when it comes to healing adult relationships, so much depends on the presence of the therapist, as I’m very aware of the fact that it is virtually impossible to integrate really [...]

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