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In this 3-day workshop, professionals will discover how to assist their most challenging clients to resolve the victim-perpetrator power wound, repair ruptured boundaries, and overcome the entanglement between the clients’ attachment system and an easily triggered threat response. Help clients return to their inherent core intactness and enlivening vitality as they embody new experiences that contradict the residue of unresolved trauma. This includes healing chronic threat responses such as fight, flight and freeze, disconnection, dissociation, flooding, fragmentation, and the hallmarks of Disorganized Attachment.

We will also focus on understanding “harmful empathy,” conflicted approach/avoidance strategies, releasing victim-perpetrator fusion and toxic interjects as well as understanding how to support therapeutic alliance by clearing severe trauma transferences.

November 16 – November 18, 2020

• $775 Earlybird
• $850.00 after Friday, October 15, 2020

• $844 Earlybird
• $919.00 after Friday, October 15, 2020


Please remember that DARe 1 (either live or online) is the prerequisite for all other DARe programs, the last three of which can then be taken in any order. If you have completed the Attachment Mastery Program Online or attended a live DARe 1 training, you have met the prerequisite in order to attend these trainings.

The DARe 1 streamable course can be purchased at the special discounted price of $195.00  



Diane Poole Heller Ph.D. is an internationally recognized speaker, author, and expert in the field of child and adult attachment theory as well as trauma resolution. Her expertise in trauma healing has benefitted survivors and families of 9/11 and the Columbine shootings, making her a highly sought-after consultant, speaker, and presenter for organizations worldwide.

In 2019, Diane joined Rosie Perez on stage at the Rubin Museum of Art to discuss childhood trauma, its impact on adult relationships, and managing PTSD.

ASERVIC (Association for Spiritual, Ethical, and Religious Values in Counseling) awarded Diane with a Lifetime Humanitarian Award in 2019.

Diane developed her signature series on adult attachment called DARe (Dynamic Attachment Re-patterning experience) which is also internationally recognized as SATe (Somatic Attachment Training experience). Her work with adult attachment has forged a path for adults with childhood attachment injuries to develop Secure Attachment Skills (SAS) that lead to more connected and fulfilling adult relationships. She believes that by healing ourselves we heal our families, our communities, and the world as a whole.

In 1989, Dr. Heller began working with Dr. Peter Levine, founder of SETI (Somatic Experiencing® Trauma Institute). As Senior Faculty for SETI, she taught Somatic Experiencing® trauma work internationally for over 25 years. 

Her book, Crash Course, on auto accident trauma resolution, is used worldwide as a resource for healing a variety of overwhelming life events. Her film, “Surviving Columbine,” produced with Cherokee Studios, aired on CNN and supported community healing in the aftermath of the Columbine high school shootings. Sounds True recently published Dr. Heller’s audiobook: Healing Your Attachment Wounds: How to Create Deep and Lasting Relationships and her newest book, The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships. She has also authored numerous articles in the trauma resolution attachment field.


Alicen Halquist, MA, LPC is a Licensed Psychotherapist with a Masters Degree in Somatic Psychology. She has 23 years’ experience facilitating and assisting the Somatic Experiencing (SE) training through SETI. She also teaches DARe and has extensive experience integrating SE with the DARe model.

Alicen serves as SE faculty as well as a Senior Lead Assistant and supervises trainings through the advanced level for SETI. In addition, she is Adjunct Faculty in the graduate Somatic Psychology program at Naropa University in Boulder, CO. She has also been trained in PACT, a psychobiological therapy by Stan Tatkin.

Her approach integrates deep mindfulness, is informed by eastern philosophy, a personal meditation practice, yoga, dance/creative arts therapy, and a belief that healing trauma can give us direct access to spiritual expansion.


Creative, practical tips for working with your most challenging clients

Do you know someone who:

  • May disconnect or pick a fight when true intimacy begins to emerge – often without knowing why?
  • Yearns for, but deeply fears, relationships because they expect them to be dangerous? Scary? Full of Conflict? Confusing? Overwhelming?
  • Shifts moods abruptly and acts out uncontrollable cycles of panic and/or rage?
  • May have trouble communicating clearly or expressing realistic needs in an empowered way?

Find out creative, practical ways to assess and address these patterns personally and clinically by learning about the residual interpersonal effects of living in a chronic threat response due to unresolved victim-perpetrator dynamics, dissociation and fragmentation alternating with emotional or physiological flooding, and Disorganized Attachment.

Professionals will learn to:

  • Professionals will be able to describe techniques to repair ruptured boundaries to enhance a sense of personal safety
  • Demonstrate how to uncouple two major psycho-biological instinctive drives − 1) the need to attach and 2) the need to survive threat − that becomes interrupted and interwoven to block the health and functioning in both systems
  • Explain how to revive embodied aliveness as high arousal states causing dissociation or extreme states are cleared and discharged.
  • Create appropriate therapeutic empathy and avoid misuse of empathy when it triggers disintegration
  • Learn to excavate, initiate and complete fight, flight, or freeze responses in a way that creates lasting empowerment by discharging ANS over-activation and healing the power wound
  • Identify and help to resolve relational approach/avoidance stuckness that may remain long after the original scary or confusing family dynamics are over
  • Explain how to differentiate victim-perpetrator fusion and release toxic interjects to allow the experience of the untainted self and restore inherent core intactness
  • Understand the intensity of Savior, Incompetent Protector, and Perpetrator Trauma Transferences as well as Counter-Transferences and how they may affect the therapeutic relationship
  • Identify how to restore the missing resource of a sense of protection and relative safety that contradicts the client’s original fearful experience

The challenge

The complex, wounding relationship that exists between victims and their perpetrators can present unique challenges to therapeutic professionals.

The intensity of an invasive sexual or violent encounter can create strong, disabling relational issues for victims, resulting in a loss of differentiation, the coupling of rage and powerlessness, or a need to re-enact the victim and/or perpetrator identity.

When encountered in early life, terrifying circumstances can create Disorganized Attachment. Children and later on, adults may develop affect regulation problems including social difficulties, attention or learning or developmental deficits, and/or a lack of coherency. In some cases, a person may become aggressive with others or exhibit a controlling style due to the danger experienced with out-of-control, chaotic, scary, or scared parents.

These terrifying and disorienting actions can be:

  1. Parents who engage in interactions that are too often scary, chaotic, disorienting, and inherently disorganizing to the child. Secure Attachment thrives and organizes in safety.
  2. Dysregulated parents acting out sudden and extreme shifts in emotional states. For example, the parent may be calm one moment and by being triggered internally, maybe enraged the next.
  3. Communication from caregivers that contain confusing “paradoxical injunctions or double binds” which present the child with unsolvable problems, i.e., “come here, go away” messages. There is no way to win.
  4. Parents who give conflicting signals that make no sense and have a disturbing lack of clarity. This sets the child up for predictable failure.

In the Disorganized Attachment Style, major biological drives are in constant conflict: the innate drive to attach and the instinctual drive to survive. In this workshop we will approach this Disorganized Attachment by working to uncouple, untangle, complete and heal both strong biological drives:

  1. The Attachment System: Intention is to give the Attachment System a safe place to land and separate it from the survival instinct.
  2. The Survival Instinct: Once the person can attach to a safe relationship, then they can begin to restore their self-protective responses against an earlier threat in the interpersonal field.

An Integrated Approach for Powerful Change

In this interactive workshop, we will explore how body/mind based therapy techniques, Attachment Theory, and a variety of spiritual practices and perspectives can be used in tandem to effectively address abuse dynamics, alleviating unnecessary suffering and reawakening your clients’ joy of living.

When examined separately, trauma healing, traditional psychotherapy, and spiritual development may appear to be conflicting paths. Psychology emphasizes building and strengthening a healthy ego, whereas many spiritual schools focus on dismantling the ego to access more expansive states. Trauma can open us to expansive states that may also be quite terrifying or cause us to disconnect or to dissociate. We need to restore a healthy functioning ego – to make friends with our ego – in order to relax enough into our true identity. Then the remnants of the wounded or defensive ego identity can more readily dissolve and be replaced by our essential aspects and our true nature. As we disidentify with our history, metabolize our story, and gather wisdom as well as maturity we find an authentic presence in ourselves that can stabilize in the NOW.

In the Dynamic Attachment Re-patterning experience, known as the DARe programs, Diane weaves these three paths – psychology, trauma healing, and spirituality into an integrated, comprehensive, and dynamic approach. Victim-perpetrator dynamics resolve toward empowerment, Disorganized Attachment behaviors heal through restoring Secure Attachment, dissociation moves toward an integrated embodiment, and disconnection is replaced by a deepening, contactful connection with self and others.

This creative integration process, which is “body-based, bonding-based and being-based,” lands us in our authentic self, orients us toward our true nature, and returns us to our real home.

We welcome you to join us in exploring this relevant and rich adventure on the human journey.


Continuing Education Credits

20 Continuing Education credit hours are available to professionals for an additional processing fee of $69. For more information about State-specific approvals, professions covered, and the number of credits for this course, click hereYou must be present for the entire training to be eligible for CE credits.

Cancellation and Refund Policy:

Full refunds will be given if an applicant is denied acceptance into the program or in the rare event that the class is canceled. A refund, less a $100 administrative fee, will be issued if a participant chooses to withdraw 30 days prior to the workshop date. After day 30, up to two weeks prior to the workshop date, 50% of the registration fee will be refunded. Payment Plans are not eligible for refunds.

Late Cancellation: When canceling within 14 days of the workshop date, no refund will be given.

NOTEPaid fees can ALWAYS be transferred to another class (without paying the $100 administrative fee) even with late cancellation, or the full amount can be applied towards the purchase of educational resources from our webstore: https://dianepooleheller.com/products/

Course registration signifies agreement with the terms of the cancellation policy.

All refunds will be paid within thirty (30) days after receipt of cancellation.

For any questions please send an email to [email protected]

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