DARe Module 3 – The Neurobiology of Loving Relationships

NOTE: the acronyms “DARe” (Dynamic Attachment Re-patterning experience) and “SATe” (Somatic Attachment Training experience) define the same course program depending on the country where the workshops are presented. The denomination varies, but the course content is the same.

“The workshop was a very powerful personal and professional experience. I have directly experienced the power of these processes by working on some of my own experiences of trauma and regulation. I have learned some great techniques for integrating into my own work with clients.”

Discover the latest research in Neuroscience that enhances our capacity for deepening intimacy.

The foundation for establishing healthy relationships relies on developing Secure Attachment Skills (SAS), thus increasing your sensitivity for contingency and relational attunement.

According to Allan Schore, the regulatory function of the brain is experience-dependent and he says that, as an infant, our Mother IS our whole environment. In this module, we will learn to understand how the early patterns of implicit memory – which is pre-verbal, sub-psychological, and non-conceptual – build pathways in our brain that affect our attachment styles. Clinically, we can shift such ingrained associative patterns in our established neural network by importing new and different “lived” experiences into the here and now.

The Role of the Therapist

Healing into wholeness takes the active participation of at least one other brain, mind, and body to repair past injuries – and that can be accomplished through a one-to-one therapeutic relationship or one that is intimate and loving. In exploring the “age and stage” development of the right hemisphere and prefrontal cortex in childhood, we will discover how the presence of a loving caregiver can stimulate certain hormones, which will help support our growing capacity for social engagement and pleasure in all of our relationships. Brain integration leads to connection and love throughout our entire life span.

Healing with Neuroscience

In this training, we will also bring a deeper focus to the role of neuroscience in restoring the brain’s natural attunement to Secure Attachment. Our brain is a social brain – it is primed for connection, not isolation, and its innate quality of plasticity gives it the ability to re-establish, reveal, and expand one’s intrinsic healthy attachment system.

The training will approach topics specific to neuroscience, such as myelination, synaptogenesis, neuroplasticity, mirror neurons, brain pruning, and priming, and implicit/explicit memory functions. You will gain useful knowledge that will greatly benefit precise clinical application in the relational field, facilitating actual brain integration.

You will learn to use valuable tools to identify additional attachment orientations of your clients, such as observing their specific narrative styles or using interactive resources including the ACE questionnaire and Schemas questionnaire – an organized test and process revealing projections of expected outcomes that intensely affect our relationships and world view. Understand the social brain, ANS regulation, Polyvagal Theory, and social engagement that inform healing techniques to facilitate authentic autonomy and true mutuality.

Together we will look into the power of mastering Brain-to-Brain / Body-to-Body interactive regulation that starts with mother and infant and evolves with partner-to-partner or therapist-and-client relationships.

We will also learn repair of misattunements, promoting safety and protection through healing techniques that facilitate true mutuality and help us cross the bridge back to Secure Attachment, including:

  • intergenerational focus to counter the effects of role reversal and the transmission of injury
  • the practice of mindfulness, enhanced attunement, and micro-tracking
  • “contact nutrition” through nourishing gaze, voice prosody, and/or safe touch

During this impactful 3-day workshop, live or recorded demos will be used to illustrate these points, along with lectures and interactive experiential exercises. Though open to all professionals who are interested in exploring their own depth and gaining new skills to use with their clients, this is not an introductory training and participants should have established practices that support their exploration of inner experience.

Based on the contributions of Mary Ainsworth, Ellyn Bader, John Bowlby, John Gottman, Louise Kaplan, Heinz Kohut, Mary Main, Dan Siegel, Marion Solomon, Daniel Stern, Stan Tatkin, Donald W. Winnicott, Jeff Young, and countless others, this work embodies a compassionate, integrative understanding of how to help heal the dysregulation of the Autonomic Nervous System as well as Attachment Disruptions.