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What Does Codependency Mean, Anyway?

People often throw the term “codependency” around, and upon first inspection, you might exclude yourself from this term based on the negative connotation. Many people, however, find themselves in codependent relationships at some point during their lives, and recognizing the signs can help you get a handle on your relationship. Simply put, codependent individuals rely on and [...]

3 Lazy Relationship Habits to Avoid

Fostering meaningful connection in the digital age poses challenges that never existed in previous generations – at least not to today’s scale and scope. Do you find yourself scanning your friends’ latest Instagram posts while your partner is talking? Millions of couples report that digital technology, like SmartPhones, is undermining their relationship at the very foundation. [...]

3 Telltale Signs of Secure Attachment

Genuinely connected partners will be the first to admit that their relationships are not perfect, but individuals with Secure Attachment share many characteristics, making it possible to manage the challenges that arise constructively. Here are 3 of the many signs that you and your partner share Secure Attachment. #1 You Both Feel Comfortable Being Your Authentic [...]

3 Ways Attachment Styles Affects Sex and Intimacy

Attachment Adaptations impact our adult relationships, including sexual behaviors and our ability to develop intimacy. Securely Attached couples can enjoy both the physical and emotional connection fostered by a healthy sexual relationship, look out for their own needs and those of their partners, and develop deeper connections through shared sexual satisfaction. Attachment Adaptations can mean that [...]

Fostering Intimacy Outside of the Bedroom

We often associate intimacy with the bedroom and physical acts of affection. It is helpful, however, to participate in intimacy foreplay before diving between the sheets. The connection that non-sexual intimacy fosters deepens connection and can enhance the physical pleasure of both partners when it's time for sex. Appreciate the Small Things Day-to-day life has a [...]

Is Insecure Attachment Ruining Your Sex Life?

Perhaps one of the most complex aspects of long-term relationships is sexual satisfaction because of factors such as imbalance of desire (real or perceived), pressure, power, shame, and partners' Attachment styles. Securely Attached – Attuned and Receptive While challenges such as an imbalance of desire can still impact sexual satisfaction in Securely Attached couples, they often [...]

Ambivalent Adaptation and Approval Addiction

Individuals with the Ambivalent, or Anxious, Attachment adaptation cling tightly to love once they acquire it. Entering into a relationship, for our Ambivalent clients, instantly creates an underlying feeling of anxiety and fear and they will willingly, often subconsciously, make enormous sacrifices to hold tightly to love. Their most significant concern is loss or rejection of [...]

Is it Possible to Heal Your Own Attachment Wounds?

In the Digital Age, the search for information and tools for self-healing have opened the door for people to improve their own lives and wellbeing independent of formal assistance. While nothing can replace the relationship between the individual and therapist, many people feel more comfortable researching and taking the first steps on their own. Acknowledging Attachment [...]

The Brain’s Negativity Bias and Its Influence on Secure Attachment

Because human brains prioritize survival – fight, flight, and freeze responses play a role in our daily lives, which can impact our ability to develop Secure Attachment both as children and as adults. Negative or threatening experiences register quickly into our long-term memories due to the ever-vigilant amygdala. The amygdala is responsible for our survival responses [...]

5 Reasons Why Attachment Matters for Therapists

While each person is different, those with Attachment injury may embody certain challenges. Avoidant, Ambivalent, Disorganized, and Secure Attachment likely have different histories and work with relationship differently in their adult lives. Healthy, Secure Attachment is within reach. Gaining in-depth knowledge about working with each Attachment styles can elevate your private practice and your personal life. [...]