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3 Ways to Restore Connection after an Argument with Your Partner

An argument with your partner can lead to fight/flight or freeze response. If you have been together for any length of time, you probably know what to expect and dread the hours of silence or the slamming of doors following a relationship blowout. Perhaps the most difficult part of being in adult relationships is overcoming the [...]

Resolving Threat to Restore the Capacity to Connect

Humans, like all species, are designed for survival. Our neurological response to threat focuses its efforts toward that purpose. When we sense danger, we require no conscious input into the activation of our sympathetic nervous system. You can’t take time to evaluate the situation when a hungry mountain lion plunges into your path. Quick response is [...]

Santa’s Tips for a Securely Attached Christmas

  Each holiday season I like to send out my favorite list of the small BIG things that can enrich our relationships. If you have something to add, I would love to hear from you please comment below! I am also putting all my DVDs on sale, with a special gift since we are often so [...]

The Power of including Attachment Theory in your Clinical Work

It was an amazing experience working with our first Attachment Mastery group earlier this year! We had participants from fifteen different countries and it took us all to a much higher level with our clinical work. A few brave participants were able to go beyond the treatment office and successfully implement attachment into their work environment, changing their [...]

Losing My Healer & Protector Max

Dear Friends and Family of Max, Maxie has been a true delight and unconditionally loving presence in my life — and many of yours — for the past 15 and a half years. He is an old man now at 17 and suffering from old age maladies. Max loves his ice cream and prefers vanilla, as [...]

Recipes for L.O.V.E.

Every relationship can at times be difficult to navigate, but the one thing that can always be relied upon to build on, restore, nurture your attachment is LOVE. I thought of giving you some essential tips, made easy to remember by using L.O.V.E. as acronym for a few simple and effective implements that can keep your [...]

WIGGLE YOUR TOES & KEEP YOUR SEAT!

My first spiritual teacher, Laurel Keyes, used to say that teaching was like “offering cookies on a plate.” She said you put together the very best ingredients you can find, bake up a batch and offer them generously. Folks could pick out the ones they liked and leave the rest behind. This was not just a [...]

John Chitty & Diane: Creating a Resilient Child From Birth

Topics Include: Babies are Sentient, far more intelligent and impressionable than modern medicine seems to believe The Birth experience is a template for lifelong autonomic nervous system resiliency Baby is a hitchhiker on mom’s autonomic nervous system: tend to moms effectively and babies will respond Use the two-chair method to communicate with Babies Archetypal Yin and Yang [...]