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Attachment: Needs VS Neediness

In Attachment theory, we often express the importance of being able to communicate our needs to a partner or loved when they arise. The inability to express needs may come from early Attachment injury including Avoidant adaptations when the needs of the child were not met by the parents or caregivers, leaving the child to fend [...]

INdependence, DEpendence, and INTERdependence

Happy 4th of July to YOU! But what about celebrating our nation’s Independence Day might also be relevant for our work in healing Attachment?   We are a culture that believes deeply in pulling ourselves up by our bootstraps. This overdeveloped sense of self-efficacy seeps into our families and parenting preferences. Bonnie Badenoch, co-founder of Nurturing [...]

Avoidant & Needs: Corrective Strategies

Avoidants want someone in the house—just not in the same room! Expertly noted by Dr. Stan Tatkin throughout this blog from his publication: I Want You In The House, Just Not In My Room... Unless I Ask You: The Plight of The Avoidantly Attached Partner in Couples Therapy. The other thing that’s a hallmark for an [...]

Recipes for L.O.V.E.

Every relationship can at times be difficult to navigate, but the one thing that can always be relied upon to build on, restore, nurture your attachment is LOVE. I thought of giving you some essential tips, made easy to remember by using L.O.V.E. as acronym for a few simple and effective implements that can keep your [...]

Avoidant Adaptation in Attachment theory

On the road again for fun and learning! I have just finished a historic tour of Spanish moss-filled Savannah – full of Southern hospitality, home of the Girl Scouts, Forrest Gump, Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil, tumultuous scandals, and tragic Civil War deaths. Perfect for the trauma resolution specialist with a hankering to [...]