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Attachment: Needs VS Neediness

In Attachment theory, we often express the importance of being able to communicate our needs to a partner or loved when they arise. The inability to express needs may come from early Attachment injury including Avoidant adaptations when the needs of the child were not met by the parents or caregivers, leaving the child to fend [...]

Attachment Injury – You Are Not Broken

The human brain adapts and adjusts in order to keep you safe. Attachment adaptations often cause people to feel “damaged” or “broken,” which misrepresents what the brain is really doing to protect its keeper. Attachment adaptations occur in early childhood when disruptions between the caregiver and child relationships interrupt Secure Attachment and are a necessary coping [...]

Ambivalent Adaptation and Approval Addiction

Individuals with the Ambivalent, or Anxious, Attachment adaptation cling tightly to love once they acquire it. Entering into a relationship, for our Ambivalent clients, instantly creates an underlying feeling of anxiety and fear and they will willingly, often subconsciously, make enormous sacrifices to hold tightly to love. Their most significant concern is loss or rejection of [...]

3 Ways Attachment Injuries Undermine Your Life

Having an Attachment injury can feel like you’re lugging around a forty-pound weight everywhere you go. This may prevent you from fully enjoying life, or even cause you to make poor decisions regarding your future happiness. There is good news, however; we can heal our Attachment injuries in adulthood. Here are three ways that Attachment injuries [...]

4 Things You Need to Know about Adult Attachment

If you are seeking more information on adult Attachment Theory, here are four things you need to know. 1. There are four Attachment styles. Secure – Securely attached people find it easy to develop relationships with others and do not excessively worry about the status of those relationships. They are comfortable being dependable for others and [...]

5 Reasons Why Attachment Matters for Therapists

While each person is different, those with Attachment injury may embody certain challenges. Avoidant, Ambivalent, Disorganized, and Secure Attachment likely have different histories and work with relationship differently in their adult lives. Healthy, Secure Attachment is within reach. Gaining in-depth knowledge about working with each Attachment styles can elevate your private practice and your personal life. [...]

Securing Holiday Joy – Happy Holidays 2016!

Happy holidays! Though this is a season of festivities for many, it can also be a stressful time that invites unwelcome triggers to your table. For the upcoming holidays, let’s focus on transformation and welcoming the joy of Secure Attachment to our celebration. You may find the challenges and practices below useful. Attachment Style – Avoidant [...]

Take Your Practice to the Next Level in 2015!

We all may know that we are neurobiologically designed for Secure Attachment but the critical question is: How do we help our clients return there if they did not hit the jackpot by starting out with it in the first place?  It is often said, it is much easier to learn a theory than to put one into practice. [...]

Strengthen Relationships with Repair

Being perfect is not so important because you are not going to be, anyway. It's not going to happen; you’re going to make mistakes. It’s okay to make mistakes. And, there is no way around it, but if you learn to be skillful with repair, you can actually have a stronger relationship after a mistake, because [...]

Helping Our Clients – DARe 1 NY, DARe 4 in Vancouver, January 2015

We all may know that we are neurobiologically designed for Secure Attachment but the critical question is: How do we help our clients return there if they did not hit the jackpot by starting out with it in the first place? It is often said, it is much easier to learn a theory than to put one into practice. [...]