DARe 1 Healing Early Attachment Wounds

Learn effective approaches to healing childhood wounds with essential body based tools that help clients enjoy fulfilling relationships.

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DARe to Connect Integrating Attachment into Your Practice

Boulder, CO
July 10 - 12, 2015
$397 until March 6th
Enhance your confidence and skill in applying Mastery of Attachment and Trauma Resolution with clients.

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DARe 2 Creating Healthy Adult Relationships

Are you ready to discover how you can have deeper communication, more joy and longer lasting love in your adult relationship?

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DARe 3 The Neurobiology of Loving Relationships

Learn an exciting groundbreaking approach integrating interpersonal neurobiology and adult attachment theory. Deepen your personal relationships and take your clinical mastery to the next level.

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DARe 4 From Wound to Wellness: Excavating Core Intactness, Power and Resiliency

Gain further mastery of Diane's resiliency based model for integrating fragmented, disorganized and dissociative states.

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Neuroscience, Attachment & the Essential Self

Gain understanding of the neuroscience behind stress and learn skills to negotiate stress in work and relationship, and how to find harmonious balance in your everyday life.

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Praise for DARe

Diane’s knowledge is deep and her breadth of understanding of the human condition is exquisite!” New York Therapist

  • “The material was so well presented – very clear, well organized. The addition of the manual is really great and helpful and I will continue to refer to it. The attachment module was relevant to clinical practice and Diane is particularly good at providing links between the didactic and clinical application.” – Anon
  • “The exercises were great! The specific clinical SE ways of working with the different types of attachment was revealing and trans-formative. There were very clear explanations of attachment styles and dynamics of what happens as the person separates from the wound pattern. What wonderful work you are bringing to the world!” – A. Morris
  • “I liked Diane’s awareness of the larger picture, the larger outcome of spiritual wholeness and maturity and her frequent reference to this. Also her clear statement of how our (therapists’) own attachment experiences and how effectively we re-patterning these can support the relational field with our clients. This was a sweet, powerful weekend!” – M. Bojourno

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